Out of pain and suffering comes Truth.
Once you open yourself to the Truth, you will never, and can never, go back without experiencing an even greater degree of excruciating pain. The pain is there to show you the boundaries of your Reality. It is like a wall to show you that this painful way is not the way toward your Highest Good -- this is not the way to go to achieve your true greatness.
Sometimes the inner blindness is so intense, that we find ourselves examining every square inch of these walls of pain and suffering (sometimes this is what is needed to achieve some level of certainty), and finally when we've spent years feeling around in the darkness of the same types of relationships and experiencing the same types of trauma responses that echo from our childhoods, we finally Know that it's time to move on in another direction. The better direction suddenly, or gradually, becomes perfectly clear.
The Sacred Self Awareness Journey
You do not need to judge yourself or another for their determination to dig their way so deeply into such a resistant pattern, for we are all explorers of this energetic realm. We all must explore our own unique self awareness journey. If someone feels the need to dig a little deeper into that wall, who knows, there might be some treasure there, a priceless insight, that could have the power to light up the entirety of that particular wall or trauma pattern, and not just for that one person. The treasure they mine could be the light switch for the entire population.
Perhaps we could consider these energetic patterns equivalent to parasites. They hold us outside of our center, in a scattered sort of frequency, they feed upon our energy, taking away precious focusing power, taking us away from the present moment constantly. But once we become aware of these "parasites", we take back our power and gain valuable footing back in the direction we want our lives to go, and not in the direction our energetic parasitic tornados push us toward.
The eye of the storm is where everything is calm.
Everything is clear.
Nothing can go wrong.